I have been away for awhile, and i think that everybody got used to this, but i am really always intending to blog and post, and i never find the time to do it. It seems to me that don't have time for breathing.
Anyway, i was thinking about decisions that people are making for their life, why are they so important? What type of decisions are so important in life??
Choosing the right partner? I think this is one of the most important decisions in life, choosing the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, share dreams, share happiness and sadness, raise children together and depend on each other. So, if there is someone you are thinking to marry, you have to ask yourself a lot of serious questions, and try to answer them to know your decision. It is not a heart decision, it is a minds decision, feelings have to get out of the equation.
The other difficult decisions are regarding the study and job you are going to take. Are you interested in this field of study, what is the job you want to do, can you do it? do you have a chance to get it, can you start your own thing, is this all worth it?
Right now am i asking my self is this all worth it?? The energy and time spending on study or work if you don't have to do it? Is it all worth it, Men don't have a choice, they have to work, and in many cases they are not in the position to actually choose their favorite job, but a lot of women have the choice, leave out the women that work to help their husbands, speak about woman who work for their own sake, what does own sake mean? To have more money? to fulfill own dreams? How does this decision effect her own life? is she going to be under stress or is she going to feel happier? How does this decision effect her children? Her family and house?
The good thing, you can always quit, start again and try it? The answer for all of these questions vary from woman to woman. Everyone has his own priorities and based on that the answers will be different. Anyway, good luck for those who work, those who don't want to work, those who are thinking about work, and those who are looking for work.
And Koll 3am and everyone bekheir.
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Friday, August 27, 2010
Addicted to electronics
I don't know if it is good or bad to be intesrested in all these high tech stuff that comes out week after week and month after month in all fields, new phone (smart of course), new electronic book reader, new 3D TV, new laptop, etc......
People are saying they don't have any time any more to do things, and i think i know why, lets watch TV just a bit, oh i haven't checked my mail yet, i have some sms that i have to send, and by the way sms are free, you get so many deals and things to do and at the end you say why are the hours just passing by and why am i not spending enough time with my family and friends.
On the other hand, we are not used anymore to entertain ourselves, play a family game, doing some things without electricity, imagine you don't have electricity for one week, i think everyone will go crazy.
Even when i try to keep my self limited with the computer or the phone i find myself spent hours with0ut having any benefit, oh and don't forget the lack of physical activity, you can do everything right now from your cell or laptop, shopping, banking, paying bills and lots of things more, you don't have to go out anymore and waste your time in the croud outside, or waiting for your turn at the line.
I thought they clame that they are saving time not wasting it.
People are saying they don't have any time any more to do things, and i think i know why, lets watch TV just a bit, oh i haven't checked my mail yet, i have some sms that i have to send, and by the way sms are free, you get so many deals and things to do and at the end you say why are the hours just passing by and why am i not spending enough time with my family and friends.
On the other hand, we are not used anymore to entertain ourselves, play a family game, doing some things without electricity, imagine you don't have electricity for one week, i think everyone will go crazy.
Even when i try to keep my self limited with the computer or the phone i find myself spent hours with0ut having any benefit, oh and don't forget the lack of physical activity, you can do everything right now from your cell or laptop, shopping, banking, paying bills and lots of things more, you don't have to go out anymore and waste your time in the croud outside, or waiting for your turn at the line.
I thought they clame that they are saving time not wasting it.
Sunday, July 18, 2010
Libyan University Standards
I know.... I know.. It has been a while since i last posted something.
However, in my mind, there are many posts coming and going, i am doing something, and i start preparing the next post, but it never reaches the keyboard. I feel the time just slipping like water through my fingers without anything effective being done.
But the topic of this post is not a new topic, i wanted to write about it for a long time now. It is not affecting me only, it is affecting all libyan students and graduates trying to get admitted to good universities abroad.
Especially those fields which does not require an exam to enter a University such as Science, Engineering or Law, you apply, do your language exam, send your transcripts, your graduation Certificate, and if you are very lucky your are amongst the ones who got over 80% at your graduation. Although i doubt that there are lots of libyans students who get this high scores. And this is the point. The way of grading the students in Libya is really more than unfair. I have taken graduate courses here in Canada, and i was very surprised at the grades they are giving, without being close to perfect your just get an A which is a very good. And it was not just any university or any course, but there in Libya, the professors are enjoying having the power to push the students down. to show them how powerful they are. this takes the chance from so many students abroad who are trying to get admitted at universities. Since the lowest grade acceptable here is 75%, and if you have this 75% and there are 5000 students applying, with only 300 positions available, who will look at your 75% if there are 3000 with more than 85%.
Here if they see that you are doing an effort, working, researching, thinking they will give you a good grade, but there, you can kill yourself learning, working, reading, it will not help.
Oh God, everyone of us will remember his professors, which are alone far from being perfect, and i doubt that one of them will be able to answer the exam questions in the short time they are giving us, oh, if they are kind, it is an open book exam, and then forget about trying to answer at all. Or the other professor who missed 95% of his lectures that semester, and only gave us 2, and then at the end he did only one exam, with all the subjects there the time was not even enough if it was the double and laughed and said "inshalla ennaja7kom""
Oh, good, i know so many students here trying to get access, and they are not able because of the low grades, and i am thinking 7asby Allah wa ne3m al wakeel on everyone who was putting his students down for fun, just to feel his power, on every professor who didn't care to do his job and at the end gave his students bad marks, in stead of encouraging your students your just kill every chance for them to enhance their selves.
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Libyan Food
I wanted to write about Libyan food forever, but not because i want to see or put recepies, I wanted to learn as much as possible about Libyan food.
As I discovered a love for cooking, I am interested in knowing more details about what ever I can get about libyan food.
But let me start from the beginning, as the Libyans are dividing themselves into groups according to their origin, Tripoli, Benghazi, Zwara, etc. also the food is different sometimes, and sometimes if you don't know someone from the other city you don't know certain types of food, especially if you are not interested in looking outside the box.
In Tripoli the main dishes are (kosksi, reshtat borma, keskas, dolma, mbatten, and many other dishes), then of course you have Bazeen and there is a fight among the different cities, which one does the best one. Then the so called Borma in Tripoli is called Mgataa in other places. Another nice dish is Ftat, el Jbalia are known for it. In Benghazi there is Mathroda and believe it or not, i have just heard about this dish 2 weeks ago, and i have never tried it before, but i will do my best to get it from somewhere. These were the main dishes, there are some other kinds of foods, like 3aseeda, Zomeeta, bseesa, Gsab (sa7leb).
The interesting thing is that the ingredients are almost the same, but there are small differences in the way of cooking amongst families. As you know, common thing here to say is Family xx does the mbaten in oil only, but family yy put it in the oven after frying it. It is nice and interesting, therefore i always like to ask several people, especially the older ones about their way of doing a dish. You can find some interesting information.
As i am trying to make most of this dishes in Canada, there are somethings missing there, and somethings taste differently, but i never miss taking my spices with me from here, i remember a post about the smell of libyan food, and yes, the food smell strongly, but!!!!! without them it is not even half as good. It is true that i don't like to leave the house while cooking, because i know that all my clothes are smelling, but at the same time i would never leave the hrarat out if i cook bosla. (It is the main ingredient for me)
I learned about these spices, their mixture, how they are done, and the other interesting thing i learned about was fish. For the first time in my life i went to see the fish market, so many kinds of fish, and the seller explains what they are, for what best to use them, he was a nice old man and you can see that he knows what he is speaking about. It was nice for me to see people not giving up their proficiency, it is important to have these people, their knowledge because they are a big part of our culture, it is not the cars and the houses. The smell of fresh fish, but as well the smell of fresh vegetables here is great. I cannot remember having the same smell in Canada, it is the smell of my childhood.
I will continue to discover everything about our food, as long as I am here, and I will try to teach my kids how to love our food as well, and by the way, I have heard about a libyan restaurant over there in Canada.
I would love to post pictures as well of some dishes and the fish market, but my camera is not working so i was not able to make any.
As I discovered a love for cooking, I am interested in knowing more details about what ever I can get about libyan food.
But let me start from the beginning, as the Libyans are dividing themselves into groups according to their origin, Tripoli, Benghazi, Zwara, etc. also the food is different sometimes, and sometimes if you don't know someone from the other city you don't know certain types of food, especially if you are not interested in looking outside the box.
In Tripoli the main dishes are (kosksi, reshtat borma, keskas, dolma, mbatten, and many other dishes), then of course you have Bazeen and there is a fight among the different cities, which one does the best one. Then the so called Borma in Tripoli is called Mgataa in other places. Another nice dish is Ftat, el Jbalia are known for it. In Benghazi there is Mathroda and believe it or not, i have just heard about this dish 2 weeks ago, and i have never tried it before, but i will do my best to get it from somewhere. These were the main dishes, there are some other kinds of foods, like 3aseeda, Zomeeta, bseesa, Gsab (sa7leb).
The interesting thing is that the ingredients are almost the same, but there are small differences in the way of cooking amongst families. As you know, common thing here to say is Family xx does the mbaten in oil only, but family yy put it in the oven after frying it. It is nice and interesting, therefore i always like to ask several people, especially the older ones about their way of doing a dish. You can find some interesting information.
As i am trying to make most of this dishes in Canada, there are somethings missing there, and somethings taste differently, but i never miss taking my spices with me from here, i remember a post about the smell of libyan food, and yes, the food smell strongly, but!!!!! without them it is not even half as good. It is true that i don't like to leave the house while cooking, because i know that all my clothes are smelling, but at the same time i would never leave the hrarat out if i cook bosla. (It is the main ingredient for me)
I learned about these spices, their mixture, how they are done, and the other interesting thing i learned about was fish. For the first time in my life i went to see the fish market, so many kinds of fish, and the seller explains what they are, for what best to use them, he was a nice old man and you can see that he knows what he is speaking about. It was nice for me to see people not giving up their proficiency, it is important to have these people, their knowledge because they are a big part of our culture, it is not the cars and the houses. The smell of fresh fish, but as well the smell of fresh vegetables here is great. I cannot remember having the same smell in Canada, it is the smell of my childhood.
I will continue to discover everything about our food, as long as I am here, and I will try to teach my kids how to love our food as well, and by the way, I have heard about a libyan restaurant over there in Canada.
I would love to post pictures as well of some dishes and the fish market, but my camera is not working so i was not able to make any.
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
new way of living
For someone who is not permanently living in Libya, and who is coming for a visit once a year, it is easy to follow small changes that are happening here.
Out of interest i am trying to figure out what i have been missing since my last visit. And there it is again, another visit, observations, listening to people and trying to understand the new changes.
Interesting are two signs on the streets, one for abused women, which seems to be a program for women beaten by their families, and the other one is a hotline for abused children. I would like to try and call this hotline to see if there is actually someone picking up the phone and offering help. But let's be realistic, Libyan life is based on what other people think and say about you, so many things are done and not done because of what others may think and say, a girl coming home late (after moghreb) is not good, what will the neighbors think, the possibility that she is working in a hospital or taking a course is not important. People who barely can afford the daily expensses of kids and house and food, have to borrow money or enter Jam3ya to buy that good (Saloon) so that when guest are coming to their house they don't say that their house is missing something. There is so much pressure and stress put on people here from outside they cannot live and enjoy their life just normally.
Another thing that really is disturbing me right now is the everyday show of cars, gold, houses, mobiles and money. People are mainly not defined anymore by what they are, smart, kind, honest, nice. No, what defines them is what car they are driving, how much they are earning, what mobile they are using and where they are living. It is sad to see how people look at and follow "the rich" people. Girls dream about a husband with money, big car and a big house, (i am not saying this is completely wrong, but the regular guy who doesn't have everything ready, but who would do anything to support his family is much better that someone who has everything and more, but doesn't care about his house, wife, family or kids) the priorities are more and more wrong defined.
Not to mention the Libyan driving, no respect for each others, if people just have some respect for each other and think like muslims and be patient or sometimes give the priority to some one else, the streets would be much safer and faster. You drive along a wide street with three lanes and you wonder why it is sooo crowded, then at the end you see it, there is a groccery shop or a another kind of shop so people are parking infront of it, and when the first lane is fully parked people just easily block the traffic and park in the second lane. just toooo lazy to walk just some additional steps.
I am sad to see all of this, i want to see it much better, i want to see traffic getting more organized, people helping each other and people not judging about others. And i am not saying this because i am thinking i am better, i am as well one of them as all are, i just have a Libyan dream.
Out of interest i am trying to figure out what i have been missing since my last visit. And there it is again, another visit, observations, listening to people and trying to understand the new changes.
Interesting are two signs on the streets, one for abused women, which seems to be a program for women beaten by their families, and the other one is a hotline for abused children. I would like to try and call this hotline to see if there is actually someone picking up the phone and offering help. But let's be realistic, Libyan life is based on what other people think and say about you, so many things are done and not done because of what others may think and say, a girl coming home late (after moghreb) is not good, what will the neighbors think, the possibility that she is working in a hospital or taking a course is not important. People who barely can afford the daily expensses of kids and house and food, have to borrow money or enter Jam3ya to buy that good (Saloon) so that when guest are coming to their house they don't say that their house is missing something. There is so much pressure and stress put on people here from outside they cannot live and enjoy their life just normally.
Another thing that really is disturbing me right now is the everyday show of cars, gold, houses, mobiles and money. People are mainly not defined anymore by what they are, smart, kind, honest, nice. No, what defines them is what car they are driving, how much they are earning, what mobile they are using and where they are living. It is sad to see how people look at and follow "the rich" people. Girls dream about a husband with money, big car and a big house, (i am not saying this is completely wrong, but the regular guy who doesn't have everything ready, but who would do anything to support his family is much better that someone who has everything and more, but doesn't care about his house, wife, family or kids) the priorities are more and more wrong defined.
Not to mention the Libyan driving, no respect for each others, if people just have some respect for each other and think like muslims and be patient or sometimes give the priority to some one else, the streets would be much safer and faster. You drive along a wide street with three lanes and you wonder why it is sooo crowded, then at the end you see it, there is a groccery shop or a another kind of shop so people are parking infront of it, and when the first lane is fully parked people just easily block the traffic and park in the second lane. just toooo lazy to walk just some additional steps.
I am sad to see all of this, i want to see it much better, i want to see traffic getting more organized, people helping each other and people not judging about others. And i am not saying this because i am thinking i am better, i am as well one of them as all are, i just have a Libyan dream.
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