Hijab.... cheating......bad speaking.

Hijaab.... cheating.... bad speaking.
let me define it, Hijaab is hiding your beauty from strange Men, Cheating is copying other peoples work and calling it yours, bad speaking -gheiba- is to speak intentialy bad about others behind their back to put them in a bad position.
What is the view of Islam about these three?? Hijab, some say it is a must, some say not, Cheating, is clear not allowed, the Prophet- Salla Allah aleih wa Sallam- said: "man Ghashana faleisa minna". About Gheiba, there Koran verses are clear, it is as if your are eating your brothers meat.
My point about this is that i find it strange how people put the most weight about Hijab, oh, that girl is not a good girl, she doesn't wear Hijab, it doesn't matter that she is a kind and honest girl who doesn't hurt others.
Ok, actually this topic is in my mind for a couple of years, one of my friends had this situation, while in secondary school, the wasn't wearing Hijab, one time a teacher, Ikhsaia Igtima3ia came to the class to talk about Hijab, they were saying how bad these girls are who doesn't wear hijab, they instead of sitting houres in front of the mirror preparing theier hair they should sit and study, some of the other -Hijab and Jubba wearing girls- were agreeing, yes these girls are not good girls, just because of theier looking. What made me wonder, is that at one of the final Exams these Hijab wearing girls were asking the one without Hijab for answers, i know that my friend doesn't cheat because she believes in the Hadieth, so who is here the right and who is the wrong?
Just because you are wearing your Hijab you think that everything else is allowed? you can talk about others, cheat as long as you seem in front of the people Muthajba? i am not talking here about those who believe in it and are trying to be good people, i am talking about those ones who do it just to look good in front of others but the inside is not clean. I think that it is more important to be clean from Inside than wearing your Hijab or shorten your trousers, at the university some of the ones who had short traousers and long bears were cheating too, is that right????
Don't miss understand me, i believe in Hijab too, i just believe that if you want to be a good Muslim you should first understand what Islam is really about, and not only choose the things that are convenient to you.

Life stops you from time to time

From time to time the life stops you, it tells you nothing is forever, we live our normal life, wish for good things, work, study, pray, believe, lough, cry but from time to time there is a bigger thing that stops you, when someone from the family dies, when someone close dies, you stop, you realize that nothing is forever, nobody lives forever, there will be an end, we will all go to another life, wheather this life is good or bad depends on us, have we done what Allah wanted us to do? where we good people? where we kind to other people? where we honest? did we treat people in a good way? where we responsible people? where we doing our best in our everyday work? nothing else matters, not the money that we are earning, not the cars we are driving, not the brand clothes we are wearing, not meaning that we have to leave the life, but we have to balance, our behavior and work is first, then the treasures of the life, be sure that we do our best, so that if our day comes we are prepared and we are not afraid of meeting Allah.

Learning from Mistakes.

In the past week i have made a mistake, i said something really ugly about another person, in my anger i didn't knew what i was saying, in my case writing, and by mistake the words reached the person i was talking about.

I never felt so shame of my self, i really had a bad time after that, waiting for the reaction from the other person. Now i feel better, i apologized and i really ment it, i think it was a lesson from my God, to try not to ever ever again say ugly words about someone else. If i want to discribe my anger, first i have to calm down until i can control my self, and second i will try not to use any bad words, even if the other person was wrong, i don't have to be as wrong as him, i will try to be just honest and subjective about what made me angry.